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Survivors of Bereavement by suicide
At Hector's House, we have personal experience of the unique difficulties of living with grief, after someone has taken their own life.
Sometimes those who take their own lives don't realise that we won't be better of without them. Those left behind will feel gut wrenching pain and loss. If you are contemplating suicide, please understand that we would do anything to help keep you alive. It is so hard on those left behind to deal with the utter and total devastation.
Suicide has stigma attached. It is difficult enough for someone to come to terms with the death of a loved one in other circumstances, let alone by suicide.
Often we don't have any answers. We don't always know why someone took their own life.
Those left behind after a death by suicide can be in absolute shock and bewilderment.
Hector would hate to see the effect his loss has had on his family and friends. If only he had understood how hard his loss is felt and how difficult it is for those left to carry on.
If you are reading this, it may be because you are suffering because you are someone left behind. We have been through this loss. It is important to know that you are not alone and there are places where you can get help for you, your family and friends.
Help is at hand - you may find this helpful
It is also important to know that after a while, you will be able to carry on and eventually move forward. But do not try to do it on your own. Ask for help.
Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide is a perfect place to look for help. You can also find resources for specialist advice say for bereaved children.
Please, please ask for help.
Support after Suicide an additional resource offering help to those affected by suicide.
Please ask for help.